2020 is an exciting time to be single. We have more options than ever before to find a partner; whether in real life or online, or through one of the numerous apps, or some combination of these options. Whatever we are looking for, every new dating app tells us that we will find it. Very often, the person seeking a new partner doesn’t know the best way to approach the process. It can be difficult, for example, to know the best way to present oneself online; the best photos to use (and which ones to keep to yourself!) and what a good biographical text is. It can be hard to determine the right balance of flirtation and creating intrigue, without accidentally going too far; to be careful but not too careful; confident but not too extreme. When we introduce ourselves online, we are showing ourselves to strangers for the first time. With the natural excitement of that comes also responsibility, to ourselves first and foremost. We cannot blame someone for feeling confused if we are wildly different from the image of ourselves that we put on an app profile. We can even end up missing out on something great. The need to hide our true self behind a false persona usually stems from fears that we are not good enough, or that we do not deserve the best. It is natural to fear rejection, too; and this way, if we are rejected, we can tell ourselves that it was not our true self that was rejected, but the one we created. This is not healthy.